Celebrate. Crave. Create.
My friends, what’s up with Love? I have been thinking about this topic a lot lately because I bear witness to situations of love that confound me, my friends live out moments that look like something from a twisted romantic comedy, and it is a topic of conversation more often than not. There are books, webinars, movies, soap-box preachers, and more out there that give us rules and guidelines to bait and snag the ubiquitous royal to reign our hearts. Sometimes, the theories are coming from a place of science, sometimes the ideas are coming from a place that is more spiritual, and, sometimes, it is practical experience that people draw from to give advice. In the whirlwind of all of this information, how do we find clarity?
My one friend has tried many techniques that are common and not so common: Wait 90 days before you sleep with him because he will be hooked by then and respect you more. Don’t have sex on the first date. Keep him wanting by not responding to texts and phone calls right away. Tell him how you feel. Don’t tell him how you feel. Sleep with him when you feel like you trust him. The list goes on and on. And, one guy after another is proving to her and (through observation) to me that there are no rules.
Love is irrational. Love is emotional. Yes, you can love someone’s mind but the experience can compel irrational actions. These actions can be grand and create astoundingly beautiful things like art, words, music, and profound moments that delight the world over or just a single private audience. Actions from the other end of the spectrum can be born, too. If love is irrational, it can not be founded on reason or logic. If this is to be true, how can there be techniques to bait and hook your beloved?
I am no expert. But, I will say that I don’t think there are common rules that works for everyone when it comes to love. There is freedom in the chaos of love. All you can do is be yourself and let it all be. Decide for yourself what you want in your life and create your own terms. Do what makes your heart sings regardless of what societal terms dictate. There will be a person out there that will celebrate your authentic ways and accepts your terms in life. Along the way, some people will break your trust, make you cry, inspire you to dream, and make you believe in magic. All of these moments will make sense in their purpose in your life journey. The painful ones will underscore the moments of wonder and joy. I definitely appreciate my love and the little things that he does more because of the moments of lack in my past.
Go out and recklessly abandon preconceived notions of what you should do in love. Rather embrace what you truly crave for your life and live inspired by your authentic desires. You can not lose when you respect yourself and live with integrity. I offer that when you dive in the pool of your own true identity and celebrate you, the rest of the world is invited to do the same.
Love life and Live it!!